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findingfriendsIs there an interesting story behind your username?
It's a native wildflower in my area. I like native plants, bees, hummingbirds, herbal medicine, and things that make ecosystems stronger. Seemed like a solid choice.
Location and language(s):
East Tennessee. English. Some very broken Spanish and Mvskoke.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
Mid 30s.
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Bigotry, cruelty, and people who think compassion is a weakness. I don't mind disagreement but I do mind dehumanizing people. If you don't get the difference, we likely won't click.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Yep, it is stickied at the top for people I've given access to.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Useful enough. I try to keep my interests list detailed enough so people can find me through those.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I'm a gay woman from Appalachia. I'm autistic. I grew up in a very diverse family and am an enrolled member of a federally recognized tribe. I'm a caregiver. My family and community feature heavily in my writing. I care a lot about community, mutual aid, stewardship, and making the world a little easier for other people to survive in.
You mostly write about:
Whatever is happening in my life. Family, caregiving, health stuff, road trips, nature, local history, community work, funny stories, grief, joy, and the occasional adventure that starts with "so I had this idea..."
You never or very rarely write about:
Fandom, celebrity gossip, influencer culture, or detailed reviews of media.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Mostly locked.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
Nope but I will put heavier things behind a cut if I think they're potentially triggering.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
A few times a week on average. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Photos occasionally. Memes when I find one funny or interesting enough. Otherwise not much.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
The people. I like watching friendships develop over years through the accumulation of ordinary life.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Most days.
You really enjoy reading about:
People's actual lives. Family stories, hobbies, gardens, pets, community projects, travel, local culture, weird niche interests, personal growth, and whatever someone is genuinely passionate about.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Rage bait, influencer culture, and people trying to build a personal brand.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
A little of anything is fine. If your journal is mostly reposted content and very little "you," I probably won't connect with it as much.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Quality, easily.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Nope. Comments are always appreciated but never required.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I comment when I have something genuine to say. Sometimes that's often, sometimes it isn't. I don't keep score and I don't expect anyone else to either.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I don't take online friending particularly personally. Sometimes people click, sometimes they don't. No hard feelings.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Not really. I might occasionally mention books, movies, podcasts, or documentaries, but my journal is much more about life than media.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
I'm much more interested in who people are than whether we have all the same interests. If you're kind, curious, and write about your actual life, we'll probably find something to talk about.
It's a native wildflower in my area. I like native plants, bees, hummingbirds, herbal medicine, and things that make ecosystems stronger. Seemed like a solid choice.
Location and language(s):
East Tennessee. English. Some very broken Spanish and Mvskoke.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
Mid 30s.
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Bigotry, cruelty, and people who think compassion is a weakness. I don't mind disagreement but I do mind dehumanizing people. If you don't get the difference, we likely won't click.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Yep, it is stickied at the top for people I've given access to.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Useful enough. I try to keep my interests list detailed enough so people can find me through those.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I'm a gay woman from Appalachia. I'm autistic. I grew up in a very diverse family and am an enrolled member of a federally recognized tribe. I'm a caregiver. My family and community feature heavily in my writing. I care a lot about community, mutual aid, stewardship, and making the world a little easier for other people to survive in.
You mostly write about:
Whatever is happening in my life. Family, caregiving, health stuff, road trips, nature, local history, community work, funny stories, grief, joy, and the occasional adventure that starts with "so I had this idea..."
You never or very rarely write about:
Fandom, celebrity gossip, influencer culture, or detailed reviews of media.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Mostly locked.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
Nope but I will put heavier things behind a cut if I think they're potentially triggering.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
A few times a week on average. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Photos occasionally. Memes when I find one funny or interesting enough. Otherwise not much.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
The people. I like watching friendships develop over years through the accumulation of ordinary life.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Most days.
You really enjoy reading about:
People's actual lives. Family stories, hobbies, gardens, pets, community projects, travel, local culture, weird niche interests, personal growth, and whatever someone is genuinely passionate about.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Rage bait, influencer culture, and people trying to build a personal brand.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
A little of anything is fine. If your journal is mostly reposted content and very little "you," I probably won't connect with it as much.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Quality, easily.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Nope. Comments are always appreciated but never required.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I comment when I have something genuine to say. Sometimes that's often, sometimes it isn't. I don't keep score and I don't expect anyone else to either.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I don't take online friending particularly personally. Sometimes people click, sometimes they don't. No hard feelings.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Not really. I might occasionally mention books, movies, podcasts, or documentaries, but my journal is much more about life than media.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
I'm much more interested in who people are than whether we have all the same interests. If you're kind, curious, and write about your actual life, we'll probably find something to talk about.
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